Value add

"Didi, me and my husband are not having great times nowadays, he had never hurt me earlier, but today he slapped me for a trivial reason....".. my maid tells me .. and she confides in me how she had been losing motivation .. i was quite busy, not really having free time to indulge in some amusing discussion .. for a moment, i thought, what if somebody in the family would have said the same to me ?.. i get the answer - being worried, trying to put some nice thoughts in her, showing her genuine hope and ask her to pray .. i took a minute, called her, sat by her, listened to all what she wanted to say and tried to put some good thoughts, motivation and hopes in her. I really do not know how far my words of wisdom will reach, but surely did i see a spark in her eyes and an expression of relief .. you must be wondering, why am i writing the story of my maid's personal life in my blog :) .. yes, we are generally quite a lot into ourselves and hardly find any interest in discovering the pain points in others' lives n help them out with good thoughts.. all of us, tend to speak about the poverty level of our country, political illness around, economics, intelligence in filmography etc etc.. being asked, "o,rite, now that we know there is so much of poverty in our country, women are still dominated and tortured, people are still having a closed mindset, society doesnt go the right way, blah blah blah, so what value do you add?" .. the natural answer is "oh i do some charity".. which is great .. great indeed.. but, you know what, we are empowered to deliver value in so many other ways by empowering people in turn - think of times when you bear some sort of grief or unrest in your mind what do you feel like ? .. sharing with somebody - simply being heard.. i remember, my sister - i used to call her back every now and then whenever i used to be disturbed @ work, @ home or anything .. she used to lend me a patient ear and that itself used to be a real healer.. now there are so many people around us who change into different personalities altogether, because for prolonged times they are unheard - nobody to hear them out .. people take drastic steps because nobody hears them out and takes interest to show them hope .. do you really think we have to go out and work with NGO's, not really ... we can simply take some time out of the hustle bustle of today's life and spend time with people around us - keep speaking about the hopes of life, take genuine interests in the well being of anybody around.. and you know what, winning over the confidence of people that they can confide in you itself is a blessing.. imagine , you could help someone smile and be hopeful about life simply by being a patient listener.. imagine, a husband wife relationship strengthens because you help the lady change her thought process and be an understanding wife, if her husband comes back home late for work pressure .. my maid comes back with a smiling face and says "didi, you have changed the way i looked at things and react to things, i have tried to think and act the way you told me, me and my husband share a better bond now" .. its a blessing ... now thats what i call a value add ... doing nothing much ... just being a good friend even to people who do not fall under the definition of "near and dear ones" .. and believe you me, empowering people with a powerful thought process when they are in need and rendering confidence is much more powerful than providing financial help, many a times .. let your mind space do some work on this and feel free to share your thoughts ... happy value adding !